Learning how to be a real estate investor can be challenging. I am routinely asked for my real estate investing advice. It always amazes me the negative attitude some people carry around with them. I have been traveling the nation a lot lately and have been lucky enough to meet a lot of new people. Everywhere I have been, a trend started sticking out. I hear people say can’t a lot. It is really quite amazing to me.
I am a father. I have two boys, 12 and 3. Even the three-year old has been taught not to say “I can’t”. My wife taught him to say, “I’m having trouble.” Most people take this approach with their kids. I think it is great. The problem is, then you go to work and say things like:
- I can’t get a better job.
- I can’t buy a rent house
- I can’t afford to advertise
- I can’t find deals
- I can’t sell my deals
On and on! I realized it yesterday, We are just a bunch of hypocrites! We tell our kids to reach for the stars, while most adults quit reaching years ago. One of the most powerful and effective ways to get over the “I can’t”. is to change it to “If I could”. Instead of, “I can’t get a better job”, say “If I could get a better job, I would ______”. This will allow you to dream. The turn “If I could” into “When I get a better job, I am going to _____”. You are now being affirmative about the future. Turn this into a passion. Get laser focused on your goal. Go about everyday with a drive. Use that drive to see the impossible, to ignore the I can’t.
I have made a great living as a real estate investor by working hard. When someone told me you “can’t” make money on that house, I found a way. It is the old Marine Corps slogan, Improvise, adapt, and overcome.
What is holding you back? What “Can’t” is in your way?