Can’t Never Could – Don’t Be a Hypocrite!

April 17, 2013 — 1 Comment

Learning how to be a real estate investor can be challenging.  I am routinely asked for my real estate investing advice. It always amazes me the negative attitude some people carry around with them.  I have been traveling the nation a lot lately and have been lucky enough to meet a lot of new people. Everywhere I have been, a trend started sticking out.  I hear people say can’t a lot.  It is really quite amazing to me.  

I am a father.  I have two boys, 12 and 3.  Even the three-year old has been taught not to say “I can’t”.  My wife taught him to say, “I’m having trouble.”  Most people take this approach with their kids.  I think it is great.  The problem is, then you go to work and say things like:

  1. I can’t get a better job.
  2. I can’t buy a rent house
  3. I can’t afford to advertise
  4. I can’t find deals
  5. I can’t sell my deals

On and on!  I realized it yesterday, We are just a bunch of hypocrites!  We tell our kids to reach for the stars, while most adults quit reaching years ago.  One of the most powerful and effective ways to get over the “I can’t”. is to change it to “If I could”.  Instead of, “I can’t get a better job”, say “If I could get a better job, I would ______”.  This will allow you to dream.  The turn “If I could” into “When I get a better job, I am going to _____”.  You are now being affirmative about the future.  Turn this into a passion.  Get laser focused on your goal.  Go about everyday with a drive.  Use that drive to see the impossible, to ignore the I can’t.

I have made a great living as a real estate investor by working hard.  When someone told me you “can’t” make money on that house, I found a way.  It is the old Marine Corps slogan, Improvise, adapt, and overcome.

What is holding you back?  What “Can’t” is in your way?

TimHerriage

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I started at the bottom, worked hard and am now one of the top Real Estate Investors in the business. I learned from some of the best, excelling early as an acquisitions manager and then moved on to partner with other skilled investors to create my own portfolio of productive rental properties and later to mentor others to do the same. I am still actively involved in Real Estate, giving a current awareness to the training I share. My wife, Jennifer, and I live in Rockwall with our sons, Alex and Will.
  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Andrew-Waite/1073359539 Andrew Waite

    Tim: These “can’t people” should meet Paul Ledgy. Paul was born in a grass hut in the tribal lands of Cameroon. He was raised with four siblings in a mud floor hut crawling with rats and roaches. His single mother insisted on schooling for the family. Paul made is way from primary school, to high school, to college in Europe and on to Taiwan. Paul is a special guy with a special sense of humor. His first book was “How to be Black in Taiwan. Twelve years ago he migrated to America. Now he runs a vibrant and successful public private real estate investment business that rebuild inner city neighborhoods with affordable housing for working families. His latest book is “Its impossible to be Poor in America” I believe Paul knows the what the word can’t means, but it is not part of his vocabulary. Watch for an article on Paul in the next issue of Personal Real Estate Investor Magazine.
    Andrew Waite http://www.PersonalRealEstateInvestorMag.com